tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post2575824906598791622..comments2023-10-21T13:37:10.839+05:30Comments on amudhan.com: Marriage - Part IAmudhanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06517557838074500370noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-45272558027757397602010-04-22T00:39:36.693+05:302010-04-22T00:39:36.693+05:30@Praba:
I request you to write a blog about this t...@Praba:<br />I request you to write a blog about this topic :) you sound like a philosopher and I like philosophy...Amudhanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06517557838074500370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-33231613979923099342010-04-18T16:02:34.883+05:302010-04-18T16:02:34.883+05:30In this research if you ask some questions to the ...In this research if you ask some questions to the spouse, answers from both community would try to preach something to the other.Obviously you should not let them know that its for this research, and try out some indirect questions. In most cases the indirect questions seems irrelevant to the context. This is the reason people would start thinking you r complex...is this convincing? :)..prabakaran Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08773038530019012414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-41938024683585427402010-04-18T13:10:13.740+05:302010-04-18T13:10:13.740+05:30@Praba:
"this research will change others vie...@Praba:<br />"this research will change others view of you, and they will start thinking you are complex" - I am getting a lot of questions on this.<br /><br />Complex in the sense 'psychotic'? :)<br /><br />Could you please be more specific and help me out here in understanding your comment?Amudhanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06517557838074500370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-67334601133627776962010-04-18T12:53:24.756+05:302010-04-18T12:53:24.756+05:30gr8..u have started a research on this. Good for a...gr8..u have started a research on this. Good for all of us.But One of my friend said that, this research will change others view of you, and they will start thinking you are complex :-).prabakaran Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08773038530019012414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-28463938475289764172010-04-16T19:28:55.433+05:302010-04-16T19:28:55.433+05:30@Vijay
hehe... yes
@Sindu
Thanks Sindu.
Exactly....@Vijay<br />hehe... yes<br /><br />@Sindu<br />Thanks Sindu.<br /><br />Exactly... adjusting and compromising shouldn't be forced... It has to happen willingly and naturally. If you have to change yourself or your habit against your will, you will not be happy and it will conclude 'not-so-happy-marriage'. This needs a separate post for itself right? <br /><br />About expectations, I am glad that you got what I tried to tell.<br /><br />Preaching theories... exactly... we can preach others easily as long as we are in the safe lands ;)<br /><br />Differences of arranged/love factor on post-marriage? I remember reading a joke about it. Arranged marriage:Love Marriage = Murder:Suicide... :) But, let me try to do some research/study about this and surmise a theory/philosophy.Amudhanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06517557838074500370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-17262847441240629582010-04-16T17:16:27.221+05:302010-04-16T17:16:27.221+05:30I liked your ' seeing others and getting insec...I liked your ' seeing others and getting insecure and considering marriage' point... pretty much sums up why most of humanity get married. I am sorry if any married readers get offended by this... you may consider yourself belonging to the part other than the 'most'. <br /><br /> I think it is all a big gamble process. Definitely, a certain 'natural compatibility' factor exists. Unfortunately, neither horoscopes, nor 'background checks' nor the few weeks of interaction as fiance can really reveal this. They say, it is all about adjustments and compromises. I tend to disagree. With certain people, you feel glad to adjust. It gives you joy. With some others, when adjustments have to be forced and compromises are in an area that defines your values, it certainly is not a 'successful' marriage. <br /><br /> It is not having expectations that mars a relationship, but having fantasies that cloud what your real expectations are! I think definitely every boy and girl should have a healthy set of expectations/criteria of how their partner should be. Yet, instead of basing it on some filmy fantasy, it should be based on the knowledge of their selves n individuality. For this, first they should know themselves.<br /><br />(P.S. - sorry for the looooooong comment. I usually refrain from it. Yet, your topic, as usual, catalyzes far too much thought process.<br /><br />2.Also, unmarried myself, i agree it is easy to preach theories. <br /><br />3.You should also consider writing on the differences that arranged/love factor have post-marriage. )Sindujahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10270647713638071705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-21158868712967583142010-04-16T15:41:26.697+05:302010-04-16T15:41:26.697+05:30ok. now i got it. first i took the literal meaning...ok. now i got it. first i took the literal meaning of "seeing". so i thought u will get secure by "seeing", literally seeing more marriages :-)vijayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13268178278255362086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-31938763408415926022010-04-16T08:28:18.663+05:302010-04-16T08:28:18.663+05:30@Ohmkumar:
I am flattered... only a bit boring? :)...@Ohmkumar:<br />I am flattered... only a bit boring? :) Anna... you are married and I think you think this post is utter bullshit. I am actually happy that you think it is a bullshit post. Because it would mean that you don't understand this post which would in turn mean that you are actually happy. I am happy to know this :)<br /><br />@Vijay:<br />I really don't need a blog to hint my family... I am actually close enough to talk to them openly... coming to think about it, may be this blog is an ice breaking tool for the topic ;)<br /><br />Vijay, you are the friend I was referring and the wise guy is the guy with a 'bird' nickname in our room :). The context was, 'now you will feel that you are not ready as you have a lot of friends and are happy and you wont think about marriage. But if your friends are all getting married, slowly your friend circle will be reduced and you will slowly get insecure (that you will be alone soon) and you will get mentally ready for the marriage'<br /><br />@Baski:<br />Thanks Baski... Understanding all the complexities makes one ready for marriage mentally. Mental maturity is the first step. But there are a lot of other things right? Finding someone who will say 'yes' and she shouldn't be blind :) and financial stability... etc. Lets see...Amudhanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06517557838074500370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-59241591846655057642010-04-15T17:36:00.696+05:302010-04-15T17:36:00.696+05:30good Article.
"When you see your friends, c...good Article. <br /><br />"When you see your friends, colleagues and room mates getting married you will start to feel insecure and automatically get ready for it".<br /><br />It is correct when you become old i mean 30+ still unmarried.<br /><br />True that, you should not get advise from others. <br /><br />You know all the things and get marry soonBaskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13663583648956741182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-21283008564450930882010-04-15T15:43:36.868+05:302010-04-15T15:43:36.868+05:30so amu, u r ready to get married now!! is this pos...so amu, u r ready to get married now!! is this post an open hint for ur family?<br /><br />Bytheway, did u feel more insecure or secure by seeing ur frnds/ colleagures/ rommies marriages. I guess the wise guy would have told something different.vijayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13268178278255362086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33208539.post-27658378945104791402010-04-15T15:34:59.239+05:302010-04-15T15:34:59.239+05:30Bit boring.... :(Bit boring.... :(Ohmkumarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11436466155093091378noreply@blogger.com